By Kenneth Stepp
I titled this after a place that doesn’t exist. The end of love is a myth. Love never ends. I was reminded of this today. Love as I always say, endures. It pushes through feelings, things that upset us, and basically, the stuff of life. Intense feelings, obsession, and other things commonly mistaken for love fail when hit by these things. Love stands it’s ground. Love will be there when all the whirlwinds have faded. It hasn’t changed. It never will. It can’t. Love by it’s nature is not damaged by anything. You can be upset. You can be disappointed. You can even walk away. But love after arriving. Never leaves. It can be confusing. Vexing even. Many have no idea what to do with it when it comes.
“We have to allow ourselves to be loved by the people who really love us, the people who really matter. Too much of the time, we are blinded by our own pursuits of people to love us, people that don’t even matter, while all that time we waste and the people who do love us have to stand on the sidewalk and watch us beg in the streets! It’s time to put an end to this. It’s time for us to let ourselves be loved.”
― C. JoyBell C.
If love is the goal. Why do so few people understand love? The song, “Do You Love Me”, from one of my favorites, Fiddler on The Roof, is a great expression of true love. An unspoken love that stood the test of time, hardships, and even an arranged marriage. They made it work and real love grew. It’s an inspiration. You should go to Youtube and listen to it. It’s a love story in a song. There’s was an unspoken love. In a world where we say I love you as often as, how was your day… It’s refreshing to hear this song explain true love. Unconditional love. What real love always is. We’re all a mess. We all have issues. If you look at the issues instead of the person. That isn’t love at all.
“I could not tell you if I loved you the first moment I saw you, or if it was the second or third or fourth. But I remember the first moment I looked at you walking toward me and realized that somehow the rest of the world seemed to vanish when I was with you.”
― Cassandra Clare, Clockwork Prince
The moment you knew. Wow. I wrote about that moment a couple of time recently. If you are like me and tend to depend on logic. Well, that won’t help in that moment. Love defies all logic. Although love is seldom what we think it will be. Most believe it’s this panacea that will solve loneliness, struggle, and pain. On the contrary. Try falling in love with a person that cannot love you back. It’s very different from the love we pictured in our mind. You can’t help who you love. Trust me, that would be amazing if you could. No more what if’s, regrets, or wondering why’s. What a different world that would be indeed.
“True love is usually the most inconvenient kind.”
― Kiera Cass, The Selection
As I wrap up my thoughts, I am left in the conundrum I began with. Is love truly worth all this effort, risk, and pain? My only answer is that if I love you and you love me back. Real unconditional, unending love. There would be nothing we could not conquer together. Why? Because we would love one another more than we love ourselves. And that is simply unbeatable. Enjoy the ride friends. It gets bumpy, shaky, confusing, and overwhelming. Worth it? Time will tell…